Love the way you were never loved back.

You college folks, You know what? Someday you will see a girl who you would like to date. You will go about looking for her everytime and everywhere in campus escaping glances, and all. But you would never dare to go and talk to her yourself simply because you are an old school, shy and scared. You could be the best at debating or could also be the topper of the class. Talking to a girl is a completely different thing altogether, only the few who are born dudes[so to say] who have been dating girls since their school days are good at it. Only things that you will find common in them are good looks or rich background, both are the matter of birth. So you can't change the way you look and how you come to college[car or metro]; if you are metro kind like me, you must nail at the first criterion[good looks] to score the girl you like. I was average at both. For those who do not agree with me, exceptions are always there. Well they are just exceptions one in hundreds.[never calculated though]

I now would like to address my category for I feel responsible for them. Just kidding. You guys should not even try on girls in the first place, I am not discouraging you; just giving you the right advice so you could do something worthwhile elsewhere. You must accept that you are just not good enough for it. I am not saying that no girl would want to talk to you or be friends with you, they will talk to you in the nicest manner and also appreciate you often. Well they will just never want to go on a date with you. Period. In college especially at undergraduate level things work a little differently, it is more about adventure than anything that should actually matter. I know it is confusing but you will understand once you will see it for yourself.

No matter how much I advice you but you will not listen to me because I myself didn't. One day she will come to you and ask for some help, you were [toh] waiting for this moment so you will help her like you never helped even your best friend and in return she will say thanks. And then you will start dreaming out of one bloody selfish thanks. You will think you stand a chance. You will think you can impress her and you will think what not. Oh boy! Pull brakes.

After that; you will help her even more and you guys will start talking more often, you will become good friends. All this while you would never dare to express what you feel for her as you yourself know that she would not reciprocate back. To top it all she will tell you about the boy she likes, she will discuss things about him. You will hate this conversation, but you will listen to it like you love it and also contribute to it. God! There are two reasons/motives behind she telling you about the boy she likes. First; she wants to share it which is alright. Second; she especially tells you about him so that you don't ever think that she likes you. Sad na? Well life ain't fair. Semester after semester a new boy will come in her life, you will still be thinking that you are also in line. No. You were never, nor you shall be ever. Things you are good at aren’t really the things she looks in a boy who she wants to date. She will disappoint you more often than not. You are a giver na you won't do anything about it as you bloody can only feel good about being selfless. You will do things that you haven't done for anyone. Many a times you will stop talking to her thinking that she will ask you about it, she never will and eventually it is you who is not feeling good about it so you will again start talking to her. All this time she will behave as nothing happened; because she will always avoid the hard questions. So you will choose this status quo for ever. There will come a time when you will think that everything is going as you wanted, very next moment she will hurt you. This cycle will continue till the very end of the college and you will realize she doesn't know that you like her as yet. Well my friend she always knew about it; it was just that she never wanted you to tell her that you like her because maybe if you had she was afraid that she would lose all that comes with your selfless help without asking anything in return.

Just an advice folks; just don't ever diss her and start talking shit about her; you've had some wonderful days with her, cherish them always and regardless.

So my friend if you will ever go through this. Don't feel hurt and disappointed in the end. You did your best boy! She wasn't worthy of you[or vice-versa] or rather not the right one for you. And maybe not in college but in future you will go on to find a girl who will not just be beautiful but adorable too.

Till then; Love the way you were never loved back!